She stated that she would like to look at it not superficially, but deeper, and analyzed the dynamics of Oksana and Dominykas’s relationship.
The “Belief Breaker” also touched on D. Dirksys’s post, when a few hours after the divorce, he published a story in which he addressed his followers and asked them to send him Oksana’s mother’s number. Here, the content creator analyzing the relationship also saw a possibly suspicious trend.
“Discussing certain couples not superficially, but more deeply is quite interesting. Since they are public figures and showed their relationship publicly themselves, it is possible to talk about them, analyze their behavior, and draw certain conclusions. But the most important thing is to do this without condemning, insulting, or humiliating, because that is just kindergarten level.
For example, this message “send Oksana’s mother’s number” looks like a very obvious offense because the woman ended the relationship with him.
It seems to me that he probably did not expect such an ending. Oksana was a very convenient partner for him because she is really a very attractive woman, has achieved a lot, and created her own businesses. He probably experienced the biggest leap of his life into a different environment with her – what it means to be close to a person who is in a wealthy environment, who has different opportunities and a different standard of living. Therefore, such a loss can be very strong for a person.
Oksana, in my eyes, is a very wise woman because only a wise woman can create such businesses and expand them. However, even very strong people in relationships can have unresolved issues. Sometimes a person can be very successful in one area of life but still have lessons to learn in relationships, which bring difficult partners into their life. Karmic matters.
In this situation, it is very interesting to observe certain behavior patterns. When a person is deeply offended, when their ego is hurt, they do not always manage to calmly accept the situation. Sometimes there is a desire to humiliate, mock, hurt, or show that they still have power.
Such behavior patterns are also discussed in psychological literature. In the book “The Narcissist in Your Life,” written by a medical psychiatrist, it is described that a person with strong narcissistic traits, wanting to hurt the one who hurt them, can choose very painful ways. One of the described behavior patterns is trying to touch the person’s most important connections, for example, their closest people. And it is very important to emphasize – narcissistic traits can be present in both women and men. Stage 5 narcissists can boldly, just to hurt their partner, sleep with their mother, friend, daughter… if it is a woman – with a friend, father, or son… They have no taboos.
The most interesting thing for me in this situation is the difference between a mature and an immature reaction.
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A mature person can simply say that they are not on the same path. That there are things that do not lead them forward, and they decided not to continue the relationship. They can admit that the relationship was good, fun, had beautiful moments for both sides, but still choose to let go.
An immature person or a person who cannot control their emotions may react to the loss very differently – with anger, mockery, attempts to hurt the other.
Therefore, I think such situations are worth analyzing not to humiliate someone, but to understand what emotional maturity looks like and what a reaction looks like when a person fights not with the other party, but with their own hurt ego,” wrote Erika, who calls herself the “Belief Breaker.”
This post by the content creator was also shared by O. Pikul herself. After publishing it, the famous woman added her own comment.
“A post worth attention! A weak broken man will always look for ways to insult the family of the former partner. Because he apparently grew up in the same kind of environment. No respect for women,” wrote O. Pikul.
